Steps to Become an Au Pair in Europe!


1. Explore websites

2. Determine personal stipulations
– What country/countries do you want to work in?
– What length of time do you want to be in Europe?
– Do you want to live in a city or the country?
– Is it important for you to have the weekends available?
– Are you willing to work weekends?
– Do you want to live-in or live-out?
– What is the minimum amount of money you are willing to accept per month?
– Are you willing to do (light) housework?
– How many hours are you willing to work per week?
– Will you work with single parents?

3. Make detailed online profiles
– Many pictures
– General letter to potential host families
– What sets you apart from other au pairs
– Ideal weekly schedule
– Ideal pay rate
– Other relevant qualifications

4. Reach out
– Mark profiles as “interests” or “favorites”
– Send families messages expressing your interest
– Create a blanket message to send out and cater it to each family

5. Skype with serious interests
– Discuss expectations
– Express concerns
– Clear up any confusion
– Meet the children
– Get a virtual tour of the home (specially, your bedroom)
– Figure out about the surroundings of the family’s home
– Decide on a length of stay

6. Finalize
-After deciding which family you will be an au pair for, confirm that plans are in order
– Research visa options (if necessary, visit a consulate)

28 responses »

  1. Superb information.Excellent representation.Have a wonderful Christmas .Good luck where ever you go.jalal

  2. I have always envied those who have taken the route to being an au pair. I am a nanny here in the States, and it was definitely an adventure for me. I started out as a daycare teacher, and then was called by a family to come consider watching their children throughout the week. It felt like an awkward first date, and then I felt like I had just been asked on a second date when they asked me to start doing it as a full time job.

    I wrestle with feeling like other people don’t understand what I do. And, truth be told, they really can’t understand it. It is hard to explain the bond you form with other people’s children. And, man, how do you describe the intense feeling of love that you have for children that regard you as normal, natural, and important to them as their own parents? They stop seeing you as someone who just watches them, to accepting you as part of their family unit.

    I love what I do. Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so excited to keep reading!


    • Ashley, it’s wonderful that you’ve had a positive experience being a nanny! I definitely look forward to having a similar experience. It’s truly a beautiful thing.

      Obviously, you’re quite attached to your current family, but why not explore becoming an au pair abroad?

      • I have promised my current nanny family that they can have me for a considerable amount of time. We are not working under any sort of contract. But my attachment to the family is that they have adopted me as their family, and I have really found my place in theirs.

        I’m terrified that when I am finished with this family that I won’t have any desire to work with anyone else’s children. I am already 25 and I wonder if this career path is going to prevent me from having children of my own some day. I wonder if I will continue to care for the children of others and wake up one day regretting that I have never settled down on my own.

        I don’t have any intention of leaving my current family any time soon. They have another due in March and I am so excited to spend time learning the likes and dislikes of this beautiful girl on the way :).

        I don’t know what life is going to look like after being a nanny. I may feel a tingle in my chest and wonder for adventure and life elsewhere, and I may break ties with this family and move on from this place. I just know that they are cozy and I feel right at home for now. And I don’t want to throw that away just because of a whim that I feel.

        I know that I would probably excel elsewhere. It isn’t a fear of not being able to do it. I really love the family I have grown to love, so very much.

      • Ah, yes, that is an inhibitor. I’m sure you’ve developed a strong affinity for the family! And a little girl! How darling.

        You know, that’s a viable concern. If you could go down another career path, what would it be? As far as fear goes, release it. A very smart man, Kyle Cease, once said, “If you want something really badly, you’re not in alignment with it.” You just need to trust that the universe will send to you what you need.

  3. Hey Andrea,

    It’s Brooke from

    So sorry it has taken me a little while to properly take a look at your site (things have been hectic!!) but I have to stop and tell you that I love it so far!! So wonderful to see how much of your personality you have incorporated! I’m even (strongly) considering study abroad next year so I will try get in contact if you are still in Europe later in 2013!!!

    – Brooke

  4. Awesome tips! I grew up in the U.S. but get to live in Europe because I have a U.K. passport, and people ALWAYS ask me for how to get over there. I’ll definitely be referring them to your blog from now on. 🙂

  5. How has your experience been so far? I am researching stuff right now and I’m not sure if I want to go the route as an au pair or if I want to get an ESL teaching job. How hard was it to find the family you are working for now? Where did you end up going? I think I would be able to make more money nannying than au pairing… but I am nervous about living with a family… its just seems like it could be potentially really great or really challanging if you didn’t end up liking your family. Any advice would be much appreciated!

    • Whitney, a great person for you to contact about teaching ESL is Laura from

      I think it totally depends on your interest. I love children, while they’re not so much Laura’s thing.

      I’ve definitively confirmed a position in Switzerland and will be there from late August to late November. I am still looking for a position for after that ends.

      I believe to become a nanny, you need to live in the general vicinity of the family. Where are you looking? Yes, there are definitely au pair horror stories! I think that’s why it’s vital to thoroughly research the family and get to know them first. Know all of their expectations, Skype frequently, ask to see your living situation, etc.

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